The Power of Ex

In honor of Valentine’s Day, I’m writing an article about couples.

My fiancé and I are currently in the middle of a three-week fitness challenge. It requires being active seven days a week and adhering to an eating plan. So far so good. Day One was the worst, where he really had to make some mental adjustments regarding working out with me, put the pride aside. He was “anti,” but I’m nothing if not persistent. Day Seven has been the best. We’re in a groove now, falling in the floor dramatizing when we’re tired and cracking jokes mid-hustle about the people on the instructional videos.

I pushed for him to join me on this challenge. Our wedding day is coming up quick, and I do think it is nice for us to both be at our best for such a grand occasion. I also know how much it can increase our relationship success. Per expert analyses, laymen surveys and even lab studies, it has been proven that there are a lot of positives for couples that sweat together – namely they stay together.

Here are the biggest benefits of couples exercising from my perspective…

1) Exercise stimulates the release of endorphins into the body. People experience this natural high; elevating mood, decreasing anxiety, leading to healthy patterns for energy balance and sleep. Best of all – couples are experiencing this “good juju” together.

2) Many couples spend all day long apart. Each person has work, errands, meetings, kid shuttling, etc. These regular duties keep us so busy, we’re starving for quality time with our significant others. Exercise can be a way to kill two birds with one stone. You’re together. You’re in sync. You’re bonding. And heck, setting up a workout schedule is kind of like making dates with each other – “let’s get started around 7:00” – that can be reminiscent of the courtship past.

3) One of the biggest limiting factors that my clients are faced with is a lack of social support. You know it – how you have a fitness goal in mind but then others don’t really understand it or want to hear too much about it or join in on the good behavior. When couples are active together, that not only can ensure long, healthy lives for them but also creates a built-in partner for “cheerleading,” someone who completely relates and is rooting for your happiness. You may also logistically enjoy having a spotter or duo for certain moves and stretches.

4) People get comfortable. You feel settled in a relationship. You’re not on the market anymore. So you maybe don’t try as hard? However, physical attraction is still a key factor to a romance. Be real. Who doesn’t want to be seen as good-looking through his or her partner’s eyes? Exercise, similar to sex, triggers several physiological signs similar to arousal – sweaty palms, increased heart rate, shortness of breath. Use this phenomenon to your advantage. You may also find those yoga pants or fitted t-shirts to be visually pleasing!

5) Like my guy and I, you may find that fitness is fun. You may fall down together. You may pick each other back up. You may smile through the pain. You may push yourself harder because someone is watching. You may banter wittily back and forth. You may start inside jokes. You may realize a little competition creates a spark or fuels a flame.

6) I believe part of being a good person is seeking self-improvement. How productive and fulfilling could couple-improvement be? You set out on new adventures together, striving for a common goal. And when you reach that goal, it is a joint accomplishment. You have a reason to celebrate and cherish the victory. Then you take on a new challenge, and the splendid cycle continues.

7) Exercise equals physical adaptations. You can get stronger. You can get faster. You can last longer. Endurance, people. A magical thing. It’s essential to everyday tasks and managing your responses to everyday stress. It can have benefits between the sheets too.

8) Exercise creates new avenues for communication. You are learning skills and terminology, for sure. The experience alone gives you something new to talk about, chatting about what routines you like most, what is sore today after yesterday’s tough gym session. That sharing also generates trust and appreciation. You are able to be yourselves, potentially vulnerable up against new odds. You offer constructive input without judgment to each other.

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